3 Ways to Help Them Find the Answer
If someone comes to you for advice, tips or looking for an answer, you can tell them
OR
You use these 3 ways to help them come up with the conclusion themselves.
Mediation
If you’ve listened to episode 354, you know the best way to give a person advice is not to tell them but to mediate them.
Mediation is a process of asking questions to help a person come to a conclusion themselves.
People don’t like being told what to do and usually just go into passive mode when you’re talking to them like that.
If you ask them questions, it turns them from passive to active, and helps them come up with the best answers for them.
The better questions you ask, the easier it will be for them to find the answer they are looking for.
Today I’m turning it around on you - not all mediation is questions.
3 Types of Mediation
You see, there are 3 types of mediation:
- Verbal - asking questions. Anything with words really. This is the main one.
- Focusing - getting them to focus on something. This can be you pointing back at the whiteboard when everyone in the meeting loses focus on what you are trying to do. It can be saying “take your time to think about it” after you ask someone a question. It can be helping your child focus on doing his homework.
- Motor - doing something with them physically. This can be pointing their finger at a paper, taking your hand and putting it on their heart, anything physical. Obviously, this has to be done with someone who it’s appropriate for you to do it.
The tricky part here is that many times you do more than one of them at once. If you clap your hands to regain focus while you’re asking them a question, you're focusing and verbal at once.
You don’t have to know exactly what groups it falls under, but by knowing there are more ways to help someone come to the conclusion, you are more equipped to do good meditation.
Up until now, you have only thought asking questions is what you need to do to help them come to the conclusion, and it’s true, it's the main one.
But many times, we have more options that makes the situation more dynamic, fun and helps us get the results we want.
One Last Thing
Meditation will not work if you aren’t connected to the person.
The person has to trust you, has to realize what you are doing is for their benefit.
No passive aggressive going on here. They have to feel you care about them and want the best for them and then and only then will you be able to help them get the result that they want.
Your Challenge
Meditation is an amazing process we can use to help others figure out challenges they are in.
There are 3 types of meditation:
1. Verbal, asking questions.
2. Focusing, helping them focus on a specific idea
3. Motor, using their hands, or any part of their body to help them figure it out.
This week your challenge is to part using all the types of meditation. It doesn’t all have to be at the same time, but I want you to be aware of it.
Hi, I'm ST,
Just like you, I want to be more efficient and effective.
Most entrepreneurs want to grow their business but already got a lot of stress.
At LifePix University we help you rewire your brain to become more efficient and effective while experiencing more inner peace.
Learn more here.
Your Essential Guide
to Cognitive Functions
This guide will give you all you need to start improving your cognitive functions. Learn what all 28 thinking skills are, how they apply to you and what you can do today to begin improving them.
Cognitive Functions Assessment
Thinking is not one big thing. Thinking is made up of 28 parts, called cognitive functions.
Take the FREE assessment to see where each of your cognitive functions are currently at.
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3 Ways to Help Them Find the Answer
If someone comes to you for advice, tips or looking for an answer, you can tell them
OR
You use these 3 ways to help them come up with the conclusion themselves.
Mediation
If you’ve listened to episode 354, you know the best way to give a person advice is not to tell them but to mediate them.
Mediation is a process of asking questions to help a person come to a conclusion themselves.
People don’t like being told what to do and usually just go into passive mode when you’re talking to them like that.
If you ask them questions, it turns them from passive to active, and helps them come up with the best answers for them.
The better questions you ask, the easier it will be for them to find the answer they are looking for.
Today I’m turning it around on you - not all mediation is questions.
3 Types of Mediation
You see, there are 3 types of mediation:
- Verbal - asking questions. Anything with words really. This is the main one.
- Focusing - getting them to focus on something. This can be you pointing back at the whiteboard when everyone in the meeting loses focus on what you are trying to do. It can be saying “take your time to think about it” after you ask someone a question. It can be helping your child focus on doing his homework.
- Motor - doing something with them physically. This can be pointing their finger at a paper, taking your hand and putting it on their heart, anything physical. Obviously, this has to be done with someone who it’s appropriate for you to do it.
The tricky part here is that many times you do more than one of them at once. If you clap your hands to regain focus while you’re asking them a question, you're focusing and verbal at once.
You don’t have to know exactly what groups it falls under, but by knowing there are more ways to help someone come to the conclusion, you are more equipped to do good meditation.
Up until now, you have only thought asking questions is what you need to do to help them come to the conclusion, and it’s true, it's the main one.
But many times, we have more options that makes the situation more dynamic, fun and helps us get the results we want.
One Last Thing
Meditation will not work if you aren’t connected to the person.
The person has to trust you, has to realize what you are doing is for their benefit.
No passive aggressive going on here. They have to feel you care about them and want the best for them and then and only then will you be able to help them get the result that they want.
Your Challenge
Meditation is an amazing process we can use to help others figure out challenges they are in.
There are 3 types of meditation:
1. Verbal, asking questions.
2. Focusing, helping them focus on a specific idea
3. Motor, using their hands, or any part of their body to help them figure it out.
This week your challenge is to part using all the types of meditation. It doesn’t all have to be at the same time, but I want you to be aware of it.
Hi, I'm ST,
Just like you, I want to be more efficient and effective.
Most entrepreneurs want to grow their business but already got a lot of stress.
At LifePix University we help you rewire your brain to become more efficient and effective while experiencing more inner peace.
Learn more here.
Your Essential Guide
to Cognitive Functions
This guide will give you all you need to start improving your cognitive functions. Learn what all 28 thinking skills are, how they apply to you and what you can do today to begin improving them.
Cognitive Functions Assessment
Thinking is not one big thing. Thinking is made up of 28 parts, called cognitive functions.
Take the FREE assessment to see where each of your cognitive functions are currently at.
We're on for 1M downloads
By the end of 2025
Can you help us reach our goal?
Share this podcast with someone you love!
