How to Make Sure Others Feel Understood
When your friend, partner or client tells you something, you probably responded based on what you’d like to hear.
But we all think differently, and we all have different life experiences that make us like different things, so how do you make sure the other person is feeling understood?
Cognitive Functions
Thinking is made up of 28 parts called cognitive functions.
We use these cognitive functions to do almost any activity.
To really connect with one person and make them feel understood, you’ve got to use multiple cognitive functions including, considering another perspective, giving a thoughtful response, stopping & thinking and more.
Today we’re gonna focus on, searching for relevant cues.
Searching for Relevant Cues
Whenever we’re talking to another person, we’ve got to look for facial cues, cues in their tone of voice, nonverbal cues, even cues within the words we are saying.
Part of this includes, are they liking what I’m saying?
How are they responding to the response I’m sharing?
Are they getting more mad?
Are they calming down?
Maybe they’re getting more comfortable and want share with me more.
3 Ways to Get Better at Searching for Relevant Cues
Here are 3 ways to get better at searching for relevant cues and making sure they feel understood:
- Watch how they are reacting to you - especially the first second will tell you a lot. Look for the tiny cues there not saying
- Ask them open ended questions - This always allows you learn more about them, understand them better so you get to respond better.
- Ask them right out if they like how you responded or they would have preferred a different approach. This is the absolute best way to make sure they are feeling understood.
Your Challenge
Your challenge is to pick one of the tips we spoke about and use it at least four times. See what happens!
Cheers to Peak Brain Performance!
Hi, I'm ST,
Just like you, I want to be more efficient and effective.
Most entrepreneurs want to grow their business but already got a lot of stress.
At LifePix University we help you rewire your brain to become more efficient and effective while experiencing more inner peace.
Learn more here.
Your Essential Guide
to Cognitive Functions
This guide will give you all you need to start improving your cognitive functions. Learn what all 28 thinking skills are, how they apply to you and what you can do today to begin improving them.
Cognitive Functions Assessment
Thinking is not one big thing. Thinking is made up of 28 parts, called cognitive functions.
Take the FREE assessment to see where each of your cognitive functions are currently at.
We're on for 1M downloads
By the end of 2025
Can you help us reach our goal?
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How to Make Sure Others Feel Understood
When your friend, partner or client tells you something, you probably responded based on what you’d like to hear.
But we all think differently, and we all have different life experiences that make us like different things, so how do you make sure the other person is feeling understood?
Cognitive Functions
Thinking is made up of 28 parts called cognitive functions.
We use these cognitive functions to do almost any activity.
To really connect with one person and make them feel understood, you’ve got to use multiple cognitive functions including, considering another perspective, giving a thoughtful response, stopping & thinking and more.
Today we’re gonna focus on, searching for relevant cues.
Searching for Relevant Cues
Whenever we’re talking to another person, we’ve got to look for facial cues, cues in their tone of voice, nonverbal cues, even cues within the words we are saying.
Part of this includes, are they liking what I’m saying?
How are they responding to the response I’m sharing?
Are they getting more mad?
Are they calming down?
Maybe they’re getting more comfortable and want share with me more.
3 Ways to Get Better at Searching for Relevant Cues
Here are 3 ways to get better at searching for relevant cues and making sure they feel understood:
- Watch how they are reacting to you - especially the first second will tell you a lot. Look for the tiny cues there not saying
- Ask them open ended questions - This always allows you learn more about them, understand them better so you get to respond better.
- Ask them right out if they like how you responded or they would have preferred a different approach. This is the absolute best way to make sure they are feeling understood.
Your Challenge
Your challenge is to pick one of the tips we spoke about and use it at least four times. See what happens!
Cheers to Peak Brain Performance!
Hi, I'm ST,
Just like you, I want to be more efficient and effective.
Most entrepreneurs want to grow their business but already got a lot of stress.
At LifePix University we help you rewire your brain to become more efficient and effective while experiencing more inner peace.
Learn more here.
Your Essential Guide
to Cognitive Functions
This guide will give you all you need to start improving your cognitive functions. Learn what all 28 thinking skills are, how they apply to you and what you can do today to begin improving them.
Cognitive Functions Assessment
Thinking is not one big thing. Thinking is made up of 28 parts, called cognitive functions.
Take the FREE assessment to see where each of your cognitive functions are currently at.
We're on for 1M downloads
By the end of 2025
Can you help us reach our goal?
Share this podcast with someone you love!
