When the Noise at Home Feels So Loud
Case Study
David was a brilliant book editor… but when the workday ended, he found himself procrastinating.
He didn’t want to go home.
Not because he didn’t love his family, he adored his kids, but the emotional noise was too overstimulating.
Guilt, overstimulation, frustration.
His brain was maxed out before he even walked through the door.
Once David strengthened the right thinking skills, things started to shift.
He had the tools needed to stay present without it eating at him.
He started looking forward to coming home, and surprisingly, he noticed his kids behaved better without him doing anything about it.
Thinking Skills
While you are doing any task, you (without even realizing it!) are using your 28 thinking skills.
When the thinking skills you need to use are strong, doing the task happens easily.
If the thinking skill you need to use is weak, doing the task will be a challenge.
The struggle that David had, came from a weak thinking skill of Searching fo Relevant Cues.
Searching for Relevant Cues
Searching for relevant cues is just what it sounds like.
Can you find and use what’s relevant in this situation?
In David’s situation, the cues came at him all at once from the moment he walked through the door.
One kid wanted to show him the project he did in school. Another was yelling “daddy,” wanting a hug, the baby was crying, and the kitchen was a mess.
They’re all important, right? How do we move forward from here?
Using Process of Elimantion with Cues
David learned, he can use process of elimination to help him move forward.
Based on the cues that were coming at him, he could "eliminate" the noise to give everyone what they needed.
Giving a compliment on the picture and a quick hug are easy things to “eliminate,” so that could happen first, real quick.
Then he’d go pick up the baby and give her whatever she needed.
The kitchen of course, could wait a bit
Then, as things would calm down, he would take in more cues.
Do the kids need baths?
Does dinner need help?
Instead of getting overwhelmed by all the information coming in, he’d ask himself:
What’s most relevant for right now?
Improving Using Relevant Cues
I knew that the more David would practice with relevant cues, the easier and faster he would get at it at home in high tense situations.
So here are 3 ways we practiced relevant cues to get better at it:
1) I simply would ask him all the time: What is relevant?
Whenever you're getting overwhelmed with all the information coming at you, ask yourself "What is relevant right now?"
If you’re getting stuck on this, ask yourself, "What can I eliminate to get the answer I’m looking for?"
2) I would give him brain exercises with lots of information, and he’d have to figure out what was relevant.
You can do this at home by listening to short videos and pulling out for yourself what is relevant
3) Play games that require you to use relevant cues.
My favorite is Dog Crimes or The Game of Clue, but there are SO many. Mastermind, Cross Clues and Escape the Room are just a few
Your Challenge
Often we use process of elimination to find the cues that will truly be helpful.
Your challenge this week is to ask yourself at least 3 times, "What is relevant?"
And use process of elimination to get your answer.
Cheers to Peak Brain Performance!
ST Rappaport, Brain Engineer for ADHDish Business Owners
Hi, I'm ST,
Just like you, I want to get more done in less time.
Most business owners want to grow their business but already got a lot of stress.
At LifePix University we help you optimize your brain to become more efficient and effective while experiencing more inner peace.
Learn more here.
Your Essential Guide
to Cognitive Functions
This guide will give you all you need to start improving your cognitive functions. Learn what all 28 thinking skills are, how they apply to you and what you can do today to begin improving them.
Thinking Skills Assessment
Thinking is not one big thing. Thinking is made up of 28 parts, called cognitive functions.
Take the FREE assessment to see where each of your cognitive functions are currently at.
How much are your
Thinking skills costing you?
This calculator will figure it out for you in less then 5 minutes.
When the Noise at Home Feels So Loud
Case Study
David was a brilliant book editor… but when the workday ended, he found himself procrastinating.
He didn’t want to go home.
Not because he didn’t love his family, he adored his kids, but the emotional noise was too overstimulating.
Guilt, overstimulation, frustration.
His brain was maxed out before he even walked through the door.
Once David strengthened the right thinking skills, things started to shift.
He had the tools needed to stay present without it eating at him.
He started looking forward to coming home, and surprisingly, he noticed his kids behaved better without him doing anything about it.
Thinking Skills
While you are doing any task, you (without even realizing it!) are using your 28 thinking skills.
When the thinking skills you need to use are strong, doing the task happens easily.
If the thinking skill you need to use is weak, doing the task will be a challenge.
The struggle that David had, came from a weak thinking skill of Searching fo Relevant Cues.
Searching for Relevant Cues
Searching for relevant cues is just what it sounds like.
Can you find and use what’s relevant in this situation?
In David’s situation, the cues came at him all at once from the moment he walked through the door.
One kid wanted to show him the project he did in school. Another was yelling “daddy,” wanting a hug, the baby was crying, and the kitchen was a mess.
They’re all important, right? How do we move forward from here?
Using Process of Elimantion with Cues
David learned, he can use process of elimination to help him move forward.
Based on the cues that were coming at him, he could "eliminate" the noise to give everyone what they needed.
Giving a compliment on the picture and a quick hug are easy things to “eliminate,” so that could happen first, real quick.
Then he’d go pick up the baby and give her whatever she needed.
The kitchen of course, could wait a bit
Then, as things would calm down, he would take in more cues.
Do the kids need baths?
Does dinner need help?
Instead of getting overwhelmed by all the information coming in, he’d ask himself:
What’s most relevant for right now?
Improving Using Relevant Cues
I knew that the more David would practice with relevant cues, the easier and faster he would get at it at home in high tense situations.
So here are 3 ways we practiced relevant cues to get better at it:
1) I simply would ask him all the time: What is relevant?
Whenever you're getting overwhelmed with all the information coming at you, ask yourself "What is relevant right now?"
If you’re getting stuck on this, ask yourself, "What can I eliminate to get the answer I’m looking for?"
2) I would give him brain exercises with lots of information, and he’d have to figure out what was relevant.
You can do this at home by listening to short videos and pulling out for yourself what is relevant
3) Play games that require you to use relevant cues.
My favorite is Dog Crimes or The Game of Clue, but there are SO many. Mastermind, Cross Clues and Escape the Room are just a few
Your Challenge
Often we use process of elimination to find the cues that will truly be helpful.
Your challenge this week is to ask yourself at least 3 times, "What is relevant?"
And use process of elimination to get your answer.
Cheers to Peak Brain Performance!
ST Rappaport, Brain Engineer for ADHDish Business Owners
Hi, I'm ST,
Just like you, I want to be more efficient and effective.
Most entrepreneurs want to grow their business but already got a lot of stress.
At LifePix University we help you rewire your brain to become more efficient and effective while experiencing more inner peace.
Learn more here.
Your Essential Guide
to Cognitive Functions
This guide will give you all you need to start improving your cognitive functions. Learn what all 28 thinking skills are, how they apply to you and what you can do today to begin improving them.
Cognitive Functions Assessment
Thinking is not one big thing. Thinking is made up of 28 parts, called cognitive functions.
Take the FREE assessment to see where each of your cognitive functions are currently at.
How much are your thinking skills costing you?
Find out by using this calculator (for free!)
